Attracting Love: The Ultimate Feng Shui Bedroom Guide for Romance
In our previous post, we discussed the foundational principles of creating a restful Feng Shui bedroom for better sleep. But your bedroom serves another vital function in your life’s energy map: it is the epicenter of love, romance, and partnership.
Whether you are single and looking to attract a soulmate, or in a relationship hoping to reignite the spark, the energy—or Qi—of your sleeping quarters plays a massive role. In Feng Shui, the bedroom represents your inner self and your romantic life. If the energy is stagnant, blocked, or "single-focused," your love life will often reflect that.
In this guide, we will dive deep into optimizing your Feng Shui bedroom specifically to nurture love, connection, and intimacy.
1. The Rule of Two: Creating Space for Partnership
One of the most common mistakes people make when trying to attract a partner is setting up their room for one person. If your bedroom screams "single," the universe interprets that as satisfaction with your current status.
To invite romance, you must create a physical and energetic space for another person.
The Symmetry of Nightstands
Ideally, you should have two nightstands—one on each side of the bed. They don't have to be identical matches (though that helps with visual harmony), but they should be of similar size and visual weight.
- Why it matters: One nightstand implies that only one person is welcome or comfortable. Two nightstands represent equality, balance, and mutual support in a relationship.
- Lighting: Ensure there is a lamp on both sides. This balances the energy and signifies that both partners have clarity and "light" in the relationship.
Pillows and Linens
Even if you sleep alone, dress your bed for two. Keep at least two sleeping pillows and two decorative pillows on the bed. Sleeping on a twin bed? If you have the space, upgrade to a Full or Queen size. A twin bed energetically says there is no room for anyone else.
2. Bed Placement: The Command Position for Love
We touched on the "Command Position" for security in our last post, but it is equally crucial for love. When you are in bed, you should be able to see the door without being directly in line with it.
However, for relationships, we must look at accessibility.
Avoid the Wall Push
Never push the side of your bed against a wall. While this is a common space-saving tactic, in Feng Shui, it is a major block for romance.
- For the person sleeping against the wall: They may feel trapped, stifled, or unheard in the relationship.
- For the potential partner: Energetically, they have to "crawl over" you to get into the relationship, or they have no way to enter at all.
The Fix: Ensure there is walking space on both sides of the bed, even if it is just 18 inches. This allows Qi to circulate around the couple freely.
3. Decluttering the Past to Welcome the Future
You cannot welcome a new partner if your room is crowded with the ghosts of partners past. This is often more emotional and psychological Feng Shui than structural, but it is potent.
The Ex-Files
Look around your room. Do you have:
- Framed photos of you and an ex?
- Gifts, teddy bears, or trinkets given to you by a past lover?
- Old letters stored in your nightstand?
These items hold the vibration of a past relationship. If you are holding onto them, you are energetically telling the universe that you are not ready to move on. Remove these items from the bedroom immediately.
Under the Bed
In Feng Shui, the space under your bed should be clear to allow air and energy to flow. However, if you must use it for storage, use it for soft items like blankets or pillows.
Never store:
- Old shoes (symbolizes walking away).
- Sharp objects or tools (symbolizes cutting the relationship).
- Memorabilia from past relationships.
- Work documents (keeps you stressed and distracted from intimacy).
4. Artwork and Imagery: What Are You Visualizing?
Your subconscious mind is constantly scanning your environment. The art on your bedroom walls acts as a vision board for your life.
Common Pitfalls
- The Solitary Figure: A painting of a single woman walking on a beach or a lone wolf may be artistic, but it reinforces the energy of solitude.
- Aggressive Imagery: Avoid art that depicts storms, battles, or wild animals. This introduces chaotic, Yang energy that can lead to arguments and restlessness.
The Cure
To attract love, curate art that depicts:
- Pairs: Two birds, two trees, or abstract art with two distinct, harmonious shapes.
- Couples: Images of people embracing or holding hands.
- Peonies: In traditional schools of Feng Shui, hanging a picture of peonies (the flower of romance) is a powerful cure for singles looking for love. Note: Once you are married, some masters suggest removing the peonies to prevent wandering eyes!
5. The Color Palette of Passion
While blue and green are great for sleep, a bedroom devoid of fire energy can feel cold and sterile—not ideal for romance. You want to balance the Yin (rest) with a touch of Yang (passion).
Skin Tones and Earth Elements
The best colors for a bedroom are "skin tones." This ranges from pale porcelain and cream to rich chocolates and warm browns. These earth tones are grounding and sensual.
The Fire Element
To ignite passion, introduce the Fire element through accents. You don't need to paint the walls red (which can cause insomnia). Instead, use:
- Pink: Represents soft, nurturing love and gentleness. Great for new relationships.
- Red or Burgundy: Represents passion and deep emotion. Use this sparingly—perhaps in a throw blanket, a candle, or a piece of artwork.
- Peach: A color associated with attraction and charm.
6. The Mirror Taboo
We cannot discuss a Feng Shui bedroom without addressing mirrors. A mirror facing the bed is considered one of the biggest taboos, especially for couples.
Traditionally, it is believed that a mirror reflecting the bed doubles the couple, which symbolically invites a third party into the relationship (infidelity). On a psychological level, seeing movement in a mirror when you wake up can startle the nervous system, disturbing the peace required for intimacy.
The Tip: If you have a mirror facing the bed, cover it with a fabric drape at night or move it to a location where it does not reflect the bed.
7. The Power of the Southwest Corner
According to the Bagua map (the energy map used in Feng Shui), the Southwest area of your home—and the Southwest corner of your bedroom specifically—is the sector governing Love and Marriage.
Identify this corner in your bedroom and give it some extra love:
- Keep it impeccably clean.
- Place a pair of Rose Quartz crystals here (the stone of unconditional love).
- Place a photo of you and your partner (or a symbol of love if you are single) in this area.
- Add a ceramic vase (Earth element strengthens the Southwest) with fresh flowers.
Conclusion
Feng Shui is not magic; it is the art of setting an intention and aligning your environment to support that intention. By arranging your bedroom to welcome partnership, balance, and harmony, you are signaling to yourself and the world that you are ready for love.
Start small—clear off that second nightstand, buy a pair of rose quartz crystals, and open the curtains to let the love in.
Ready to dive deeper into Feng Shui? Stay tuned for the next post in our series where we will tackle the Feng Shui of the Home Office and productivity!
